Category: not a typing post

What main differences do you notice between ESFJs and ENFJs?

Anonymous said to mbti-sorted:

Any tip on how to tell esfj and enfjs apart?
       
   

ENFJs tend to project one of the four following things in order from not knowing you that well, to feeling comfortable goofing around with you:  1. Professionalism!  2. Pleasantness.  3. Dorkiness.  4.Hysterical giggling.

ESFJs are outwardly more actively and reactively emotional and project more things and more of those things.  

If your EFJ is sobbing, or appears outwardly guarded, or is being smooth or charming, that is probably an ESFJ.  If you are thinking, “my what a lot of Fe that person has” like weird MBTI Red Riding Hood.- they’re probably an SFJ.  

If you are not that close you will probably not be able to tell immediately when you’ve annoyed an ENFJ.  If you’ve annoyed an ESFJ, they are more likely to make that clear.

Appearance-wise, the ESFJs are also way more put together.

Can you please sort Tom Felton’s mbti. He’s the one who played Draco Malfoy in Harry Potter series. Some type him as an isfp or an istp but he seems very talkative and is interactive during interviews. He talks a lot and i can see him either as an ESTP or an ESFP. But idk though, because i am not a pro in mbti but i can tell if something is up. He loves to get hands on things- something that istp would love to do. He loves outdoors and the SE in him is very obvious. So wdy think?

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You said you pay attention to muscle tension. What do you mean by this. Would you mind describing how each of the types exhibit muscle tension please?

Anonymous said to mbti-sorted:

Would love it if you could expand on types and muscle tension.

I have no idea where to start answering these.  If you want me to be able to put together any kind of intelligible answer, you’re going to have to ask way more specific questions.

Either pick a body part/muscle group, a person, a type, or some kind of combination thereof and maybe you’ll hit on something for which I can generate commentary.  If you need an example, this post seemed to go ok. 

Have you noticed if there are any particular types that tend to sit cross-legged more than others? I’ve noticed a lot of ESFx types sitting with their legs folded and also ESTx females. What do you think?

There might be something there, but I tend to pay attention to muscle tension because it’s really hard to ‘fake’ as it were, or to change, particularly over long periods of time.  You can choose to cross your legs, and you can choose to train yourself to do so, which makes it a less useful behaviour to type with. 

A couple of problems I can think of straight off are: people who subconciously mimic others’ body language, cultural behaviours (how you’re ‘supposed’ to sit), anxiety – do you curl up on yourself when nervous/cross your limbs defensively.

It’s possible that leg-crossing is a typeable behaviour, but I’m not sure I would personally be able to trust it without a lot of evidence to back it up, and a lot of explanations about why it’s happening or not happening for each type.

Hey sometimes the not talking is the way to go! Miscommunication is at best annoying and at worst can cause unintended problems for N and S types. I find myself talking less but also trying to be clear when I do talk.

I think that you’ve managed to find the positive mid-point (do you need to speak?) between points 1 (avoid!) and 3 (take the time to organize your thoughts before you speak!).

…While a lot less catchy, this is getting reminiscent of Craig Ferguson’s: “Does this need to be said?  Does this need to be said by me?  Does this need to be said by me right now?”

I guess the thing is that the communication issues never seem like a huge problem if you can plan ahead before speaking.  It’s harder to figure out how to deal with a blank look on someone’s face when you’re also trying to explain something you just came up with on the spot, or something you haven’t looked at in a while and are having to think through as you go.  That’s where having a person who can keep up with you would help most.